Quickie Reviews of Two Books to Help With Mindfulness at Work (and Elsewhere)

When you are mindful…You become keenly aware of yourself and your surroundings, but you simply observe these things as they are. You are aware of your own thoughts and feelings, but you do not react to them in the way that you would if you were on “autopilot”…By not labeling or judging the events and circumstances taking place around you, you are freed from your normal tendency to react to them.

— A Guide to Practicing and Understanding Mindfulness

One of the things I regret most about my younger self is my extreme fear of failure and the way it drove many unhealthy behaviors. Sure, it had its uses. For example, I often used that fear to drive me to work harder, read more, learn more and generally stand out from the average. However, it also made me a very difficult boss in the early days of my company as I drove everyone as hard as I drove myself and rarely but too often yelled at my employees for simple mistakes. I’m ashamed to say that this made me a very poor leader at times. When the chips were down, when the going got rough, I worked harder than anyone and so did my team but they did so often in fear of the slightest stumble. My ugly behavior extended into my personal life too where my fear and doubt sometimes made me quick to anger and cost way too many personal relationships.

To this day, I can’t say for sure where my deep fears come from. Western therapy gave me some theories but never really helped much. Instead, I learned how to see my fears for what they were and took away their power to control me through lessons I learned from Buddhist practices and Eastern philosophies. The simple ability to recognize the blooming of an emotion, how it changes the way my body feels and being able to choose in that moment instead of reacting had a very powerful impact on my life. It helped me grow my business and build a far stronger team of happier employees. It lead me into a great marriage with an extradorinaiy woman. After I sold my company, it helped me find a home at Blinds.com along with a role I love. Although I still have a long way to go, I certainly feel like I’m better off today than I was those many years ago mainly because I better understand what’s going on inside my head and my heart at least most of the time.

Lately, I’ve noticed that mindfulness is making its way into the business mainstream.  Companies like Google are actively training employees in mindfulness practices because it improves the quality of communications, helps people get more done by enhancing their focus and generally improves the happiness and satisfaction of their employees. To that end, here are two books that can help get you and your company get started.

“Fail, Fail Again, Fail Better: Wise Advice for Leaning Into the Unknown” by Pema Chodron is nothing more than a commencement speech and an interview and nothing less than a brilliant and gentle lesson about the importance of facing up to your failures with compassion and understanding. It only runs about an hour and a half so I was able to listen to the Audible version while walking one afternoon. Something about the combination of walking 7 miles and the lessons in the book left me with tears my eyes. Often, it felt like the author was talking directly to me and my struggles.  Yes, I often took refuge in blaming others when I was involved in failures. Yes, even more often I judged myself unforgivably responsible for every failure. The secret, as she says, is to learn to sit quietly with the feeling instead of pushing it off quickly with blaming others or self. Use failure to become stronger, more compassionate and more able to make your way through life.  She tells a story of a man who walks through the surf to swim out to sea. A large wave comes and knock him down.  As he lays at the bottom with sand in his mouth and in his eyes he thinks of two choices: get up or, well, die. He gets up and walks further. He gets knocked down again, lays at the bottom and gets up again. Each time he gets knocked down, it becomes easier to get back up because of the habit. Easier said than done, of course, but there’s far more nuance to it and she does talk about it a bit more as the book goes along. The commencement address that opens the book is full of humor and good will even as it challenges the new graduates in the audience (and the reader) to go out into a world full of unknowns and many, many opportunities for failure.  Check it out at Amazon.

“Search Inside Yourself: The Unexpected Path to Achieving Success, Happiness (and World Peace)” by Chade-Meng Tan is a straight-forward guide to the mindfulness course the author helped to assemble and now brings to people throughout Google. Tan is one of Google’s earliest engineers and brings an engineer’s mindset to mindfulness. He provides plenty of scientific evidence for the benefits of mindfulness training, which makes the seemingly squishy ideas behind things like meditation much more approachable for highly analytical types. His enthusiasm for the subject and his infectious joy come through page after page. There’s no doubt that the title on his business card is accurate: “For he’s a jolly-good fellow, which nobody can deny”. I would highly recommend getting this one in print or Kindle form so you can easily go back to the practical exercises.

Quickie Review of “Soft Skills: The Software Developer’s Life Manual”

Soft Skills: The Software Developer’s Life Manual” by John Sonmez of Simple Programmer fame started out very slow and way too obvious for my tastes. After the first chapter or two I wondered what possessed me to pick up a book that bills itself as “a guide to a well-rounded, satisfying life as a technology professional”. I started to think of the author as Captain Obvious. I imagined him with a foam bat in his hand that he would earnestly use to punctuate each of his points with a gentle whack to my head. “You need people skills”, whack! “Be picky about where you work”, whack! “Have a specialty”, whack! I stuck with it, though, and ended up glad that I did. Yes, some of the advice is obvious and facile. After all, the book is covering an awful lot of territory. Some of it is aimed at people with far less than the 30 years of experience I have in my career. However, the book offers solid advice and a good starting point for deeper exploration on most of the topics it covers.

The book consists of 70 short chapters broken into seven sections: career, marketing yourself, learning, productivity, financial, fitness and spirit. The short chapters create a nice rhythm when listening via Audible since you can always finish a chapter before getting out of your car or otherwise turning off the audio. Later in the book I learned the short chapters were both a motivational technique for the author and an intentional choice to let readers digest the material in bite-sized chunks.

Personally, I found the sections on productivity, fitness and spirit to be most interesting as I am starting to delve deeper into those areas myself. The productivity section was particularly well done. The author’s personal experience of how disciplined use of time changed his life clearly gives him a passion for the topic. He ties planning, pomodoro time management and training techniques together to form an interesting and very practical way to get more done than you ever thought possible. He also takes on notorious time wasters like TV and video games based on his personal experience. It is very compelling advice. His advice on fitness is similarly personal, impassioned and effective.

His advice on investing is equally passionate but edges out into very dangerous territory advocating things like option trading and highly-leverage real estate investing. Although he briefly notes the risks involved, he down plays them quite a bit. He also advocates “good debt”, like the million dollars or so in mortgages he says he currently holds on his rental properties. On the upside, he references “Rich Dad, Poor Dad” author Robert Kiyosaki and spends a little time clearly explaining the key differences between things that make you money, like stocks and bonds, and things that waste your money, like buying cars with “easy monthly payments”. All in all, his financial advice is a strong net positive though I would advise people to take on less risk than the author advocates, avoid debt of all kinds and generally follow more of Dave Ramsey’s advice on money.

I would recommend this book to almost any technology professional. It’s likely that almost every reader will find several ideas in the book they can use to improve their life and career. I would especially recommend the book for someone just starting out in their career. You can think of the book almost like a very inexpensive mentor. At the very least, it can put you on a path of continual self-improvement.

Rabbit Operations 0.9.0 Released

This version is a minor maintenance release that includes the ability to set a different expiration time for error messages to give you more time to analyze them and possibly replay them. It also includes an upgrade to the latest stable release of RavenDB.  Check out the project website for more information.

The next release, 0.10.0, will include some major improvements including a new GUI and the ability to view and analyze statistics collected from all messages.  You can check out the plan on our Trello board.

Trying Out Serverless Applications at AWS — JAWS, Lambda, API Gateway

I just finished up a POC for an integration with a major retailer that allows our Customer Engagement Center to better assist customers buying custom blinds in store. It leverages AWS Lambda, AWS API Gateway and AWS SES to deliver a massively scalable, highly available web API with no servers to manage. I am really liking the tools provided by the JAWS Framework that made it far easier to manage and deploy the solution. I hope to do a full blog post on this in the near future.

Rabbit Operations Version 0.8.0 Released

This is a minor release but it contains one significant goodie: The details dialog for errors now has a section that displays a nicely formatted stack dump. Here are the complete release notes:

  • Nicely formatted stack dump shown on details view of error message
  • Ability to view queue stats as a gauge
  • Improve performance of search screen especially when bringing back large sets of large messages
  • BUG FIX: Small memory leak in poller due to RavenDB profiler stats
  • BUG FIX: Retry to overcome RavenDB transients under high loads when there are more than 40 active queue pollers

Check it out the Project Site for more details.

Setting EC2 Volume Tags for Cost Tracking

Like many AWS users, our company needs to track our AWS costs by project and client for accounting purposes.  Amazon makes it pretty easy to do this using tags and some settings in the billing console.  In our case, we added a CostCenter tag to each instance and ELB to indicate how to allocate the cost. Because most of our instances have at least two volumes, setting the tags manually for the volumes would have been very tedious and error prone. Therefore, I put together this little Powershell script to do the work for us by copying the CostCenter tag from the instance to all its associated volumes:

$volumes = Get-EC2Volume

Write-Host "Setting cost center tag on " $volumes.Count " volumes"
foreach ($vol in $volumes) {
  $tags = $vol.Attachments | %{$_.InstanceId} | Select-Object -First 1 | Get-EC2Instance | %{ $_.Instances} | %{ $_.Tag}
  $name = ($tags | where {$_.Key -eq 'Name'} | %{$_.Value}) -join ','
  $costCenter = ($tags | where {$_.Key -eq 'CostCenter'} | %{$_.Value}) -join ','

  $tag = New-Object Amazon.EC2.Model.Tag
  $tag.Key = "CostCenter"
  $tag.Value = $costCenter
  New-EC2Tag -Resource $vol.VolumeId -Tag $tag
  Write-Host "Volume: " $vol.VolumeId " Cost Center Set To: " $costCenter
}

You will need the AWS Tools for Windows Powershell installed.

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